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73 HOW GOOD A FRIEND ARE YOU? You may feel like you are the perfect friend, but are you really? How do your friends feel about you? Here’s a test to find out: 1. You are at home on a Sunday afternoon when a friend calls you. He tells you he is at the shopping mall and has spent all his money. He is feeling very ill and his family is away for the day. You… a. Jump your bike as fast as you can to help, even though it is raining b. Tell you friend to call uber and come to your house. You think your parents will probably pay. c. Advise your friend to walk home. Fresh air will cure him. 2. Your friend is very bad at maths, but for you it is easy. Some weeks ahead you have an important maths test and your friend has asked for your help. You… a. Clear your schedule to help him even though it means you will have less time to prepare. b. Help your friend by showing him some online instruction videos that explain the main ideas and some questions with answers. c. Tell him he can just sit next to you during the test and peek at yours so he can copy the correct answers. 3. You and your friend both fancy the same person. Your friend has been head over heels for some time, but you are favoured over your friend. You… a. Invite this person over with a group a friends and then create an opportunity for your friend to talk to him/her. b. Say to your friend that if he/she won’t ask the person out, you will – even though you know your friend is too shy to do that. c. Just go for it! Al’s fair in love and war… 4. Your mate has just had a major make-over: new hairstyle and awful clothes. Now he wants you to come along to get tattoos and piercings. You… a. Suggest to think carefully before getting tattoos and piercings as they are very hard to re move if you happen to change your mind. b. Tel him you’ll come just for fun, but definitely do not want any tattoos or piercings yourself c. Tell him how you feel about his new look (you hate it) and that he should definitely get professional advice before doing anything else. ANSWERS Mostly As – you are an excellent friend! Make sure no one takes advantage of you, though. Mostly Bs – You will do as a friend, but are not very reliable in case of an emergency. Mostly Cs – who needs enemies if you’re their friend? Try treating your friends the way you’d like to be treated by them. MY WORLD - ME

74 Please, accept I’m different STEPHANIE WILLIAMS, 26, has Asperger’s syndrome; here she explains how she has learned to manage her condition. . 1) At first glance you’d never know how hard I’m trying. I dress up, look you straight in the eye and watch carefully for signs that I’m boring you. But even so, minutes after meeting me, you may start to think I’m a bit … well, odd. I tend to stare, which might make you feel uncomfortable, and sometimes I blink a lot. I can be extremely direct although I really don’t mean to be rude. I once said to someone in the supermarket: “Could you please move, because you’re so fat I can’t see the sign behind you.” I’m better now, but for years I had no idea how to make small talk. I’d start a conversation by telling someone how much Elvis paid for his mansion Graceland, or asking their opinion about abortion. I’d say whatever came into my head. 2) Being diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome at the age of 17 was a huge relief. It explained a lot, such as why I couldn’t get along with girls at school and why I was bullied. I always said the wrong thing, asking them what colour soap they used or how they spelled their name. And if I thought I had a friend, I’d be really upset if they talked to anyone else. 3) I took a drama course when I left school and it was the best thing I could have done. Eccentric people are accepted in theatrical circles and, for the first time, I had friends. It also taught me how to act normally; like most ‘Aspies’, I can imitate people even if I don’t understand them. Afterwards I studied French and Spanish at university. Aspies are good at deciphering codes, which is basically what languages are. 4) I need daily routine so it was better for me to live at home (with my parents) as I like things to happen at the same time every day. If I do take on something new it can become an obsession. When I decided to lose weight, I had to swim exactly the same number of lengths every day. It didn’t take me long to slim down and I even had a boyfriend for a while. It didn’t work out though, and now I’m sceptical about relationships. I’m quite a naïve person and I tend to attract manipulative or controlling men. 5) Because I’m no good at reading body language, I never know if men are interested in me. I bought a book to help me understand facial expressions but I still have problems with my own. I tend to look blank, so people assume I’m not bright. 6) When I was working at a call centre I overheard someone call me a ‘pain’ because I kept asking the same thing. I gave my boss a leaflet about Asperger’s because I had been sacked from other jobs and I didn’t want to lose this one; a year later I was made redundant. 7) I don’t want to get married or have children. I don’t like physical contact and I find children noisy and tiring. But Asperger’s has its advantages: I have good attention to detail, so I can remember information well. I know I have a lot to offer, I just need people to accept I’m different. MY WORLD - ME